Weekend Update

After a very satisfying weekend -- including an overnight visit with a very special little pet, you know who you are -- I still have another day off tomorrow. I should really be getting more work done, but I admit, I've been spoiling myself this weekend. I needed a few days off.

I had an afternoon coffee with the Headmistress of ClubFemNYC, the organization to which I belong. She's such an amazingly gracious and wonderful person. I felt instantly at home with her, from the moment we met. Sometimes people and situations come into your life at precisely the perfect moment, and that's how I'm feeling about ClubFem. I've spent too long looking for the right boy online, when the online environment is a place that breeds the kind of bad behavior I want to avoid. I've never been more clear in my life about what I want than I am these days -- and never so determined not to compromise that, or myself. ClubFem absolutely provides the right support system for that. I had almost forgotten how vital it is to socialize with other Dommes -- they remind me of what I am, and how important it is to safeguard and honor that.

Anyway, a few hours with the Headmistress, and I was feeling very good about where I am right now, very clear-headed and happy. We talked about our plans for a training academy for submissives who want to learn how to really attract the right mistress, and I agreed to take on some of the logistical organizing of this -- I'll be really curious to see if any boys have what it takes to make it through. If they do, they'll have the approval of at least five formidable Dominant women, and I'm sure our references will certainly count for something. We each will take turns training one boy, he'll get a different Domme each month to teach him skills he needs to learn. I don't know -- if a guy approached me and he had the approval of five Dommes and had been trained in almost everything I liked, that would really make me sit up and take notice. That's like a dream-submissive right there.

Domme Group last night

The Dommes' Group that I went to last night was the absolute shot of positivity in the arm that I needed. It was so nice to be part of a community again. The women were all very cool, and it felt empowering to be around such like-minded, good people.

And yes, there were hopeful single boys. I had a lovely talk with one of them. He was gracious, sweet, polite and respectful: something that gave me encouragement that there are good submissive boys out there. No one is perfect, certainly, but knowing how to treat a Mistress is essential to ever successfully attracting one. If you can't even manage to be respectful in a conversation, you are not ready.

Last night also reminded me that I am still firmly in control of this process. I felt like I was back in my element. For me perhaps the most powerful part of the evening was hearing the older women reinforce what I already knew, but their experience gives them a steadiness that I am still learning to achieve.

There was also a married couple there. The woman wore a key around her neck - a sure sign that she's got her husband locked in chastity. It touched me to see a successful, smart couple like that out in the world, making it work. There were other, older couples in attendance who've been together for several decades, and that also touched me. You can get very downtrodden in this lifestyle, thinking that things will always be fleeting and short-lived, that people will only disappoint you and that the voiced devotion of submissive boys is only that -- voiced, not real. To see people making it work was a kind of encouragement I didn't even know that I needed. After the last few months, especially, I needed to see that -- it moved me almost to tears.

They have a play party coming up, and I also got invitations to other events. Getting out there seems to be a vast improvement for me right now. I might even be able to put my sissy-training skills to work again someday.