Monday, February 18, 2008

Who are you, anyway?

The least attractive thing that submissive guys do when they're trying to attract a Mistress is the one-line email that says something like, "I live near you and I want to talk."

There are variations on this email: "I read your profile/blog and I think we should talk," or "I really like what you have to say and I think we should talk", etc.

But basically this message is extremely arrogant. I call this the "I want this, so you have to give it to me" school of submissive men. Just because they sit around in their apartments jerking off to the idea of Dominant women somehow means that when they encounter a real one, we should be obligated to deal with them.

Dealing with men who believe their desires are the most important thing in the world and should be addressed right away is something that I have to put up with every day -- in my vanilla life. I absolutely do not tolerate it behind the closed doors of my private, Domme-centric world. The fact is, I don't care. I just don't care. As I say so often to men, only your mother thinks you're that special.

Who are you, anyway? One line about how you want to talk to me tells me absolutely nothing about whether or not I want to talk to you. Do you have skills I'm particularly in need of? (Like, can you scrub a toilet so clean it makes the angels sigh?) Do you connect with my writing in some particular and interesting way, and can you talk about that intelligently? (Cannot stress that one enough.) Have you fully confronted your own selfish male upbringing, systematically learning how to be selfless, emotionally open, communicative, nurturing, sweet-natured and docile? Because that's what I want. And I really don't care that much (read: at all) about what you want.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Dear Mistress Lola,
i wrote to You on Collarme about this post.

Anonymous said...

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